This isn’t going to be one of my normal letters to you where I make a few dirty jokes, drop a “that’s what she said” and then photoshop you with a mullet and it may not really fall under Roblosophy but…
My roommate just broke up with her boyfriend. Have you ever been there? I won’t mention the big ginormous elephant in the room, since we’ve gotten pretty good at just ignoring it but have you ever been the one to realize it was time to call off something that in the end just wasn’t good for you? Even when you loved the person and cared for them with a love much deeper than that just boyfriend/girlfriend love it was a truly meaningful friendship above all else. But in the end you knew you weren’t meant for each other and no matter how much it hurt it was better to be apart? If you have, than you know how rough that can be. How do you put an end to a very deep friendship, that’s beyond the physical attraction and general good times? It’s not easy, is it? And how do you suggest we cope? Can we take a few hints from your life?
Take out a good friend who will listen for a drink – I’m sure you’ve sat with TomStu for hours after he (or you) have broken up with someone, downed a ton of few beers and just talk about life and google “heartbreak quotes” on your phone? Cause that’s what life is really all about. It’s the “only true currency in this bankrupt world . . . is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” (thank you Lester Bangs)
Get creative – Maybe it’s time to write a song. You can’t listen to a song like Never Think and wonder if you’ve ever had this experience.
Binge on wildly unhealthy food for a night (or two weeks) – I’m not gonna lie, my family is from the south so we want to feed people and when the tears started flowing I pulled out the Sprinkles Cupcakes (and then the hummas and then…). Because sometimes you just need a Hot Pocket to make it all better. I’m bet that’s actually your life quote.
Watch ridiculous amounts of TV, Movies and listen to music till you fall asleep when you stand up*. If the Sex and the City gals, the Golden Girls and Jimmy Fallon can’t make it better than we better pull out the big guns: Sex and the City THE MOVIE, Joni Mitchell Blue album and High Fidelity. Forget the real world for a few minutes and escape… sounds like a little movie we know something about, right?
And mostly know that no matter how much it hurts you did the best thing for yourself. It’s a sign of maturity and wisdom when you can be true to yourself through difficult decisions and situations. And as cliche as this say is it’s #truefax, time really does heal all wounds.
Rob, I hope you understand that I needed to get more serious tonight. Sometimes life knocks on your door, crying and you answer it.
“Some people think it’s holding on that makes one strong- sometimes it’s letting go.”
Have you ever been in this situation? How did it go? Can we really get life lessons from Robert Pattinson?
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart to all your readers, the contributors, and UC for the birthday wishes, kind words, tweets, cards and everything else. I love yours faces and wish everyone could be as lucky to have people write you such nice things about them. This has been one of my best birthdays ever. I got to spend it with people I adore and listened to all the music I could stand, ate tons of crap/good food and reflected on how this year will be my year. xo moon